Pop psycho

Popular psychology has a little saying that goes like this "if you know it, you show it". The reason I am writing about this is because I know what a victim is. If I label someone to be a victim then it is said that I show this trait in my experience with others. Bottom line, I am a victim. I have bad feelings when I have things happen to me that I do not accept. My maturity level comes from my commitment to these feelings. In other words how committed am I to my poor feelings? Do I use them (poor feelings) to make others feel poorly? Do I make others feel so bad that I can make them do things for me? Do I use them to keep others away from me? I must change this way of looking at others as victims. I must see that these people that I have slapped the label of victim on as something else. How about needy? No, that's not going to work for me. How about someone that could use a hug? What if I remove the labels and start seeing everyone with some great potential and in need of a great big hug. That works for me!